Since this blog’s inception, I’ve tried to use it and it’s associated social media as a platform to help other people get the help they need. Through both the blog and social media, we (I say we,not I because it wasn’t me alone) have been able to raise thousands of dollars for people to avoid eviction, pay their electric bill, get car repairs done. Total strangers have brought groceries to people in need just because they lived in the same city and were able to do so. Strangers brought Christmas to a family. People have even found housing thanks to connections made through Facebook & Twitter.

People diss posting causes on social media as slactivism but those people would be so very wrong.

In December, I started trying something new on the Facebook page to get help to even more people in need. Each day at 8 a.m. (I like to schedule posts), I posted a fundraiser or idea on how people can help others. I also post the link on a static page here on the blog and also on my Twitter.

I’ve decided this will be a daily thing, not just a December thing. First, I need to lay out some friendly reminders and basic etiquette. Ready? Here we go.

  1. The only comments allowed will be ones of support. Questions should pertain to how to help.
  2. If you disagree with the fundraiser’s purpose or who it benefits, keep scrolling. There are all sorts of poor people who need help and for a variety of reasons.
  3. If a person with a disability or medical condition needs support, this is not an invitation to offer advice on how they should eat or not eat or any other cures or remedies. Also, if you don’t believe that illness is “a real thing”, you can keep that to yourself.
  4. If you are also in need of support, email me at or msg me thru twitter  (@dumbsainted) or the facebook page. Please don’t use the comment thread of a personal fundraiser to tell your own story. Your story is important, as is the other person’s. Let me give it the individual space it needs.
  5. Yes, I will continue to support poor people who require reproductive health services but can’t afford them. This includes abortion. A fundraiser related to such is not an invitation to debate this topic.
  6. Don’t be upset if people reject offers of actual goods instead of money.  People (especially domestic abuse survivors) might not be comfortable giving their address out on the internet or meeting strangers.

I think that’s all. For now.


If you need help, you don’t need to have a fundraising page set up. On several occasions, I’ve been able to simply say, “This person in such and such city needs groceries” and people responded with offers of help.(NOTE: Not every time, unfortunately). Paypal addresses are totally acceptable,too.