What with all the holey shoe issues this week, this song kept popping into my head.
This week has me thinking about how my current poor AF circumstances are both enormous and small at the same time. I’m thinking about how fortunate I am but how unsettling that good fortune is knowing that so many people are in the same place and much worse.
Do you think I could crowdfund to become a philanthropist? People would get behind that,right? The Poor Philanthropist.
(I LOVE oxymorons, by the way)
I wouldn’t be a charitable philanthropist,though. Charity is this concept that assumes that the person giving is more elevated than the person receiving. I wouldn’t want to be about that. I’m right there with ya’ll.
(I think I just mangled another quote right there but the exact wording and who said it first is escaping me)
No matter how many of those bad days are back to back, you need to remember this doesn’t represent the sum of your life.
Speaking of taking a deep breath … this is a good method fr when you find yourself having a panic or anxiety attack (which many people tell me they have experienced related to poverty-induced stress).
breath in for 4 seconds
hold your breath for 7 seconds
exhale breath for 8 seconds
repeat once or twice more.
This causes an autonomic nervous system shift from a sympathetic (fight or flight reaction) state to a parasympathetic response.
Use this for panic/anxiety attacks, exams, presentations.
This ones for those of you who are tired of being told you just need to try harder.
Acknowledge to yourself how hard your trying and let this be the only standard to live by. When we’re talking about poverty, the act of trying sometimes doesn’t amount to much of your against other barriers. Be mindful of this,too.
image via Celebrating the small victories.
Is it just me who feels that, as a poor person, people are very quick to talk you down from your goals and aspirations? It doesn’t seem to be as a kind hearted act to help you avoid being crushed when things don’t pan out. It feels more like they really don’t have faith that you could possibly achieve anything beyond the reach of poverty. Even when they are supposed to be your support people.
Is it just me that feels that?
Maybe those small minds are right. Who knows? I just know that if you listen to them and believe them, poverty is going to be an even darker place without that thing you’re dreaming of.
This is me. My husband hates it.”How can you say that?! It’s clearly not going to be OK.”
But it always somehow does work out. I love being right.
The funny thing is, when other people tell me that it’s all going to be ok, it pisses me off.
via Your Mental Health First Aid Kit.
This takes practice. A lot of it. The idea that you can let negativity bounce off you isn’t really true. Unless you have some awesome force field, negativity from other people or something that’s happened is going to touch you. Whether you allow all of it in to consume you or break it into pieces that can scatter can make a huge difference. I’m not going to give you some “think positive and positive things will happen” line of BS because we all know that alone doesn’t bring you out of poverty but when you’re living in tough times, the last thing you need is to be full on taken over by negativity. That’ll eat you alive.